Would you believe me if I told you that I once sewed a bridesmaid into her dress after an unfortunate dance floor accident? It’s true. Or how about the time that a maid had too much to drink at the rehearsal dinner and found herself sick at the altar the next day? Her bouquet was the casualty. Thank goodness we’re able to make bouquets on the fly while nursing a sick one with sprite and saltines. Our wedding day kit is a lifesaver. Here are seven of our favorite things that are always stocked in our wedding day kit:
- 1. Steamers. We are known for arriving at weddings, steamers in hand. We always steam linens, focusing especially on those we know will be highlighted in photographs (the head table, cake table, escort card table, bars). There’s nothing worse than a huge, ugly crease in a table linen, and just ask a photographer how much they love photoshopping creases out of linens (hint: not at all). Steamers also are imperative to have on hand for dresses wrinkled in transit.
- 2. Baby wipes. I was singing the praises of baby wipes long before I had my daughter, Birdie. These little miracle workers are so versatile, we’d never be caught without them. If you have a stain on your dress: baby wipes. A little spill: baby wipes. Need to cool your head on a hot summer day? Baby wipes.
- 3. Straight pins. I can’t tell you how many bouquets and boutonnieres I’ve made or remade under pressure two minutes before walking down the aisle. It’s my party trick. Straight pins are there in a pinch for pining ribbon to bouquets or pinning boutonnieres to lapels. I also like to keep ribbon cutting scissors, a few shades of ribbon, floral tape and rubber bands on hand at all times.
- 4. Bobby pins. Without fail a lady will need a bobby pin for her hair, whether she’s having a last minute coiffure crisis or needs to attach a floral crown. Don’t leave home without them.
- 5. Water. Self explanatory. Also Altoids mini mints are a must.
- 6. Clear lip gloss and a few shades of lipstick. When you’re taking portraits, whether on your wedding day, bridal portraits or engagement, a glistening lip is best. I always tell brides to lick their lips in between each shot. Trust. It works. But it’s also nice to apply a clear gloss or retouch color. Often brides forget their lipstick, but we don’t!
- 7. Sewing kit. See torn party dress above. The sewing kit is a must.
Wedding invitations should be mailed six to eight weeks before the date. Before mailing yours, be sure you’ve completed these last few tasks.
1. Budget a month to complete invitation assembly and addressing. Often we work with calligraphers who are out of town, so we’re sure to build time into our schedule for shipping envelopes back and forth. You may not be using a calligrapher; beautiful handwriting is just fine. Whatever method you’re using, you will need about a month to address, assemble and mail.
2. Proof read your address list, and always remember to spell it out. State names, street quadrants (“northwest”), the word “apartment,” suffixes, such as “junior,” should all be spelled out, not abbreviated.
3. Assemble your suite. Your invitation will be on the bottom, face side up, with enclosures, organized largest to smallest, on top of the invitation. The response card should be tucked into its stamped return envelope, print side up. Typically the order is: wedding invitation, reception card, reply card in envelope. You may have more enclosures. Order them by size.
4. Weigh one complete invitation set at the post office to be sure you’re using the correct postage.
5. Make sure all of your response card envelopes are stamped with return postage. Bonus points: number response cards so you know who they belong to in case a guest forgets to write her name.
photo katie stoops
First things first: when you start planning your wedding, begin building a wedding day agenda. This basic breakdown of timing will help you as you’re booking vendors and thinking through transportation and transitions. The three most important time stamps you’ll need to know are: when your ceremony will begin and end, when cocktail hour will begin and end, and when your reception will conclude.
5:00 PM ceremony begins
5:25 PM ceremony concludes
5:40 PM cocktail hour begins
6:40 PM cocktail hour concludes/dinner reception begins
11:00 PM reception concludes
Now that you have the basic building blocks of your wedding day, you can develop your timeline before the ceremony and during the reception. Looking at an agenda like this, and assuming there’s not significant traveling in between venues, I would recommend that this bride book a photographer a minimum of eight hours, a dinner band for about four hours and a half hours, then I’d start working on transportation timing so I could be smart when booking hair and makeup appointments. Happy planning!
My biggest piece of advice when you’re thinking about the design of your wedding: begin at the end. Most people do the opposite — they collect pictures on Pinterest, oftentimes imagery that is not cohesive, images that don’t complement the space they’re working with, or images that depict design ideas that are out of budget. Then, they struggle to retrofit the look with their space and budget. Obviously the fun part is thinking about the way your wedding will look. It will be nearly impossible to not daydream as you click through images on Pinterest or peruse the pages of Martha Stewart Weddings, but my one admonition is this: don’t get married to design ideas too early. Stay flexible.
First things first, establish your budget. Then, do some housekeeping: draft a guest list and secure a venue. After those major groundwork tasks are out of the way, shop for your gown. Next, and this might sound strange, look at rentals (begin with the end!). You might be surprised to see that some of the colors you had in mind don’t exist in linens at your local rental store; perhaps you will need to bring materials in from out of town to bring your color story to life, or you might find you will need to tweak your color story. Next, look at bridesmaids dresses. I love Bella Bridesmaids because you’ll be able to see many colors and styles on the floor, as well as swatch books for other colors and fabrics not in store.
Doing a little bit of research about what is available before you select a color palette will save a lot of time and heartache and it may also lead you to a group of colors you didn’t realize you loved! Once you’ve done this research, you should have a good sense of where to go next so you can turn your attention to the fun part: gathering inspiration images, developing a design board, working with a stationery designer on your invitation suite and save the dates, and working on an order with your floral designer.
You’re nearly finished! You’ve approved your invitation design, materials will soon go to print, and envelopes are on their way to your calligrapher. Next up: sending a properly formatted address list to your calligrapher.
Although the calligrapher with whom you’re working may have her own system and requirements, over the years we’ve noticed some standard requirements as it pertains to address list formatting:
1. Send a typed list in a word document, not a spreadsheet
2. The list should be in address label format, as below, max three columns
3. Use a legible font, such as Times New Roman, 12 pt
4. Alphabetize your list
5. If you have changes or updates to addresses after the initial list has been sent to your calligrapher, send changes and updates by email. Do not send a new, revised list. Updated drafts cause confusion.
This is what is meant by address label format:
Miss Sally Sue
14 Sunshine Street
Sunnyville, California 23456
Happy mailing! xoxo
We’re giddy for greenery: pantone’s color of the year (and truth be told, we always have been — just check out this green and white wedding inspiration board on Pinterest). This perennially chic shade of green is classic, crisp and perfect for spring weddings. We loved pairing it with the palest shade of blue in this shoot for Southern Weddings Magazine at Tuckahoe Plantation photographed by Katie Stoops.
To see more, hop over to Southern Weddings Magazine, where you’ll see a full list of vendors who graciously contributed to this shoot.
No matter how you slice it, making cuts to your guest list can be an arduous (and sometimes impossible) task. As you embark on one of the very first steps of wedding planning, drafting your guest list, bear this in mind: your guest count will drive costs more than most any other decision you make. That’s because food and beverage consumption will represent about half of your total wedding spend.
To get started, identify the maximum number of guests your budget and venue will allow. To kickstart that process, ask your caterer to help you identify a high and a low cost per person for food and beverage, including tax and service charges. Keep your maximum number on the conservative side, slightly lower than your total budget will allow and slightly lower than your venue’s capacity.
Traditionally the couple invites half the guest list, while each set of parents invites a quarter. If your parents are paying for your wedding, you may want to adjust these percentages in their favor.
Begin by making your dream list, a list of every possible person you’d love to invite, then divide this list into buckets that ultimately relate to priority to invite.
-Bucket #1: close family members (siblings, grandparents)
-Bucket #2: close friends and extended family
-Bucket #3: colleagues and other friends
When you merge your parents’ lists and yours together, you may discover you need to cull the list or revisit budget. To cut or not to cut? If you’ve never spoken to the guest, consider cutting that person from your list. As it relates to unmarried couples: unless the couple is engaged or lives together, considering cutting plus ones. If you haven’t spoken to a person on your list in a year or more and are not related, you may consider cutting that guest. Consider eliminating co-workers from your list – have a close look at bucket #3 of guests.
Cutting a guest list can be a challenge, and sometimes it may be impossible, but giving your list a good scrub and knowing the commitment you’re making before you make deposits will empower you as you plan your wedding!
It’s always such an honor to be recognized by our peers for doing what we love: working with families to plan once in a lifetime celebrations. And it’s such a joy to plan weddings in Virginia in our beautiful capital city. Since 2012, Virginia Living Magazine has recognized Merriment Events, along with a host of other very talented wedding service providers, as one of the best in the commonwealth. We’re humbled by the recognition and so grateful! Look for the February issue on newsstands now.
Although we designed this shoot without a season in mind and shot it on a hot summer day, I’ve always thought this would be such a classic and timeless look for winter bride. The colors are a pretty twist on a classic winter palette, and the sparkling Christos “Arabella” gown and chic boxwood touches all whisper winter. xoxo