Making the cut

Monday, October 24th, 2016

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No matter how you slice it, making cuts to your guest list can be an arduous (and sometimes impossible) task. As you embark on one of the very first steps of wedding planning, drafting your guest list, bear this in mind: your guest count will drive costs more than most any other decision you make. That’s because food and beverage consumption will represent about half of your total wedding spend.

To get started, identify the maximum number of guests your budget and venue will allow. To kickstart that process, ask your caterer to help you identify a high and a low cost per person for food and beverage, including tax and service charges. Keep your maximum number on the conservative side, slightly lower than your total budget will allow and slightly lower than your venue’s capacity.

Traditionally the couple invites half the guest list, while each set of parents invites a quarter. If your parents are paying for your wedding, you may want to adjust these percentages in their favor.

Begin by making your dream list, a list of every possible person you’d love to invite, then divide this list into buckets that ultimately relate to priority to invite.

-Bucket #1: close family members (siblings, grandparents)
-Bucket #2: close friends and extended family
-Bucket #3: colleagues and other friends

When you merge your parents’ lists and yours together, you may discover you need to cull the list or revisit budget. To cut or not to cut? If you’ve never spoken to the guest, consider cutting that person from your list. As it relates to unmarried couples: unless the couple is engaged or lives together, considering cutting plus ones. If you haven’t spoken to a person on your list in a year or more and are not related, you may  consider cutting that guest. Consider eliminating co-workers from your list – have a close look at bucket #3 of guests.

Cutting a guest list can be a challenge, and sometimes it may be impossible, but giving your list a good scrub and knowing the commitment you’re making before you make deposits will empower you as you plan your wedding!




photo by jen fariello

What happens to your flowers after your wedding

Friday, October 21st, 2016

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Without fail, in the two weeks leading up to a wedding, the question will be asked: what will happen to my flowers after my wedding? Surely they won’t all go to waste? Before you ponder the idea of asking a few friends to deconstruct those arrangements and deliver to your parent’s home tout de suite, take a breath. Often the vases are rental, meaning that arrangements will have to be deconstructed on site and loaded into buckets of water so the floral designer can collect her containers. It’s a big job and one that friends and family might not be able to easily take on at the end of the evening. As an alternative:

-You can offer “to go bags”  to guests and encourage them to pluck a few blooms on their way out. I love these from For Your Party. If you’re not interested in ordering custom printed bags, you can easily find clear cellophane candy bags at most any craft store. Display those with some pretty ribbon, and you’re all set!

-You can hire a company to donate your flowers after your event. Grace in Bloom in Richmond is dedicated to just that. Conceived by two friends, Brittany Heare, who also works with Merriment, and Brittany Mantiply, Grace in Bloom delivers “gently used wedding flowers” to nursing homes and assisted living facilities in the Richmond area. Brittany will work closely with you, your planner and your floral designer to develop a schedule and plan for collection. We love Grace in Bloom because it is such a win/win!





photo katie stoops

bouquet design by merriment

What a trial run is and why you can’t skip it

Thursday, October 20th, 2016


When you draft your month-by-month wedding planning timeline, be sure to dedicate an afternoon to a hair and makeup trial. A trial is a dry run for your wedding day hair and makeup. It should be booked about six to eight weeks prior to your wedding date. This is the best time to talk about the styles you like and to collaborate with your stylist; it also gives the stylist an opportunity to learn about your hair and skin type, to discuss any concerns you might have, to try on any hair accessories you may be wearing, and for the stylist to pass along any tips and tricks she may have.

After hair and makeup are complete, get thyself to the dressing room! This is the best time to stage a dress rehearsal and your chance (sans wedding day jitters) to see how everything works (or does not work) together: how your veil looks with your hairstyle, how your undergarments are fitting with your gown, how your shoes feel when they’re worn more than a few minutes, and how your accessories look with the ensemble. Better to discover any issues prior to your wedding day while there’s still plenty of time to make adjustments! If your maid of honor and your mother can be there, practice bustling.

If you’re doing a bridal portrait with your photographer, this is the day to schedule it. It’s a great opportunity to break the ice and to get comfortable in front of the camera in your wedding gown. Be sure to order a mock up of your wedding day bouquet!




photo jen fariello

Skip to the loo my darling

Wednesday, October 19th, 2016

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Not all things wedding are inherently glamorous: the loo for instance. If you’re having an outdoor or an at home wedding like many Merriment brides do, you’ll likely need to engage in potty talk during wedding planning, and by potty talk I mean securing a restroom trailer.

If you’re just starting your search, there are a few questions you must ask: How many stalls are in each unit? How large are the stalls? How many sinks are in each unit? Will the unit play music? Does the unit have heat and air? Running water? What type of flooring is in the unit? And now for the cliff notes:

Generally you need one stall for every 75 guests.

The unit will need to be installed on level ground near a water spigot and power. Be sure the location you identify for RR trailer installation is easily accessible by truck and that the truck can easily pull in and out. Also think strategically about the location of the trailer. How far will your guests have to walk from ceremony, cocktail and dinner to facilities? Golf carts are always nice for guests with limited mobility.

Make sure the loo is easy to find: consider signage. Lighting is a must — always light the path and always uplight the trailer! Depending on your budget, you may consider decorative elements to conceal/enhance the look of the trailer. I’ve even seen trailers draped to look like a tent!

Inside: consider embroidered hand towels, monogramed paper hand towels, candies or mints in your colors, scented oil diffusers (my favorite), hand cream for the ladies room, and liquid hand soaps in pretty containers. In my opinion a few of these little treats go much further than bathroom baskets loaded up with bandaids, mouthwash, etc.



photo katie stoops

Happy First Day of Fall!

Thursday, September 22nd, 2016

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photos by katie stoops 

floral design by janie medley 

planning + design by merriment


martha stewart weddings summer issue

Monday, September 19th, 2016


Martha Stewart Weddings Summer 2016

It’s always such an honor to contribute to Martha Stewart Weddings. In the summer issue, we answered a reader’s question about discussing dress code and attire with your vendors. While most vendors follow the industry standard (black), not all do. We offered some tips on navigating that conversation. Here’s a little insta snap of the article.  xoxo

How to kickoff wedding planning

Monday, September 12th, 2016


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One of the most important things to do once a budget has been established and blessed by everyone contributing is to map out a wedding agenda — as much of one as is possible at the beginning of planning. The agenda will give you answers to the basic questions you’ll need to answer as you enter the next phase of planning: hiring vendors. Do I need a photographer for eight hours or ten? How long should my band contract be? How much time should I allocate for photographs? Should I take photographs before the ceremony or after or both? When should hair and makeup begin? What time should the bus pick up my guests? etc.

But how do you start crafting a wedding agenda — where do you start? The ceremony time is generally a good starting point. Ideally your ceremony will begin just before “golden hour,” which is the time of day just before sunset when the light is dreamy and photographs look their best. Once you’ve determined what time your ceremony will begin and how long it will last, you can move on to thinking about how to structure photography before and after your ceremony.

In my experience, the trickiest part of crafting an agenda is in finding consensus around the photo/shot list. Since the posed photographs before and after the ceremony are driving timing to such a large extent, I would recommend tackling this first. Your photographer will most likely provide a suggested list of photographs.

Most couples schedule about an hour of photographs prior to the ceremony. This allows the photographer time to photograph the bride, bridesmaids and her family, as well as the groom, groomsmen and the groom’s family unhurried before vows are exchanged. You can decide if you’d like to do a first look then, too.

Once you’ve developed a list of pre-ceremony photographs, you’ll develop a list that will be taken after the ceremony. Then, you can easily back out time earlier in the day for hair, make-up, getting ready, transportation, and later in the day for your reception.

At the beginning of planning the most important items to work out on your agenda are: ceremony start and end time, posed photos before and after your ceremony, cocktail hour start and end time, reception start and end time. Once you’ve penciled in these significant time stamps, you’ll be in a great place to move forward hiring vendors and scheduling transportation!


photo katie stoops

happy national dog day!

Friday, August 26th, 2016

We’ve named signature cocktails after them; dressed them in bow ties and floral collars; their likeness has even been printed on fabric. Cheers to our beloved pooches!

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Brittany and Andrew’s dog Henry inspired the signature cocktails (the “Henry” and “Henrietta”) at their fall wedding at Tuckahoe Plantation. One of our favorite printers created gold foil stamped drink stirrers in Henry’s likeness to dress up the (incredibly yummy) signature cocktails created by our go-to local caterer.


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Megan and Will’s labs joined us for cocktail hour. We hired a professional dog handler to help us that evening — always a good idea to have a professional on hand dedicated exclusively to the bride and groom’s pups.


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A Virginia artist hand illustrated a custom monogram for Katie and Joel, which included their pooch — you can see him just below the shield that surrounds the couples initials. So beloved was this pup that he made it onto Joel’s cummerbund and bow tie, both of which were custom-made by a local designer.

Cheers to our clients’ sweet pups and the fun they bring to celebrations! xoxo

crystal clear

Tuesday, July 12th, 2016

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We love how these chic acrylic accents add a quick dose of glamour to parties!



1- Alison Events; 2- KT Merry + Strawberry Milk Events; 3- Rachel Ellen Events + Jessica Kettle Photography; 4- Table cards designed by Twinkle & Toast via Exquisite Weddings Magazine; 5- Southern Fried Paper + Thisbe Grace Photography

totally knotical!

Friday, July 8th, 2016

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It’s all smooth sailing with these “knotical” details!




1 & 5  invitation suite designed by holly hollon and photographed by lauren kinsey; 2 – table number; 3 – nautical bunting Ingalls Photography; 4 –  table designed by Alison Events and photographed by Mel Barlow